A Funeral Rite

 

 

Guests please read or respond with the bold-face liturgy text, for example, where below you see, C: Amen.

 

 

Welcome and Greeting (Stand as able)

 

P: Please stand as you are able … We meet in the name of Christ who died and was raised by the glory of God the Father. Grace and mercy be with you all.

 

 

C: And also with you.

 

 

Opening Hymn – opt. (Stand as able)

 

 

P: Please be seated.

 

 

Sentence (Seated)

 

 

P: Jesus said, “I am the resurrection and the life. Those who believe in me, even though they die, will live, and everyone who lives and believes in me will never die. (John 11.25f)

 

 

(Additional sentences from which selection may be made if required)

 

 

·   Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. (Matthew 5.4)

·   We brought nothing into the world, so that we can take nothing out of it. (1

Timothy 6.7)

·   The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.

(Job 1.21)

·    For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him may not perish but have eternal life. (John 3.16)

·    What no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor has the human heart conceived, what God has prepared for those who love him – these things God has revealed to us through the Spirit; for the Spirit searches everything, even the depths of God. (1

Corinthians 2.9f)

·    Since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God will bring with him those who have died. Therefore encourage one another with these words. (1 Thessalonians 4.14,18)

·   The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, his mercies never come to an end;

they are new every morning. (Lamentations 3 .22f)

 

 

(If it has not already done, the minister may here introduce briefly the theme of the service and make mention of the person who has died.)


 

P: We gather now as family, friends, and well-wishers both to honor <name of deceased> in

her/his life and to comfort and encourage one another at her/his death. As it is written …

 

 

And Jesus cried out with a loud voice, and breathed His last. Then the veil of the temple was torn in two from top to bottom. (Mark 15:37–38)

 

 

… we recognize and rejoice that neither <name of deceased>’s soul, nor spirit, have ceased to be, but only the visible and mortal temple for these no longer holds them, just as the Temple in Jerusalem now no longer holds back God’s Holy Spirit.

 

 

Collect (Seated)

 

 

P: God our maker, your creative will gives life to all that is; your quickening power brings us to birth. Let your love sustain us to the end of our days and bring us through death to a new beginning; through Jesus Christ our Lord.

 

 

C: Amen.

 

 

 

The Liturgy of the Word

 

 

Reading(s) (Seated)

 

 

(Relatives or friends may here offer inspirational prose, poetry, or Bible verses known to be favoured by the deceased)

 

 

R: A responsive reading from Ecclesiastes 3, verses 1-8,11a …

1 For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven:

 

 

P:   2 a time to be born,

C a time to die;

P:   a time to plant,

C a time to pluck up that which is planted;

P:   3 a time to kill,

C a time to heal;

P:   a time to break down,

C a time to build up;

 

 

P:   11 He has made everything beautiful in its time.


 

R: A reading from Isaiah 46 verses 13-16a – Let us read together …

 

 

13 C: Sing, heavens; and be joyful, earth;

and break out into singing, mountains:

for the LORD has comforted his people,

and will have compassion on his afflicted.

14 But Zion said, “The LORD has forsaken me, and the Lord has forgotten me

15 “Can a woman forget her nursing child,

that she should not have compassion on the child of her womb? Yes, these may forget,

yet I will not forget you!

16 Behold, I have engraved your name on the palms of my hands.

 

 

P: Please stand as you are able … a reading from John 14, verses 1-6,

 

 

1 “Don’t let your heart be troubled. Believe in God. Believe also in me.

2 In my Father’s house are many homes. If it weren’t so, I would have told you. I am going

to prepare a place for you.

3 If I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and will receive you to myself; that where I am, you may be there also.

4 Where I go, you know, and you know the way.”

5 Thomas said to him, “Lord, we don’t know where you are going. How can we know the way

6 Jesus said to him, “I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.”

 

 

Please be seated.

 

 

 

Hymn – opt. (Stand as able)

 

 

 

Personal Remembrance (Seated)

 

 

(Relatives or friends may here offer testimonial or other signs of remembrance for the deceased)

 

Obituary – Pastor (Seated)

 

Pastoral Message (Seated)

  

Intercession (Seated)

 

 

Thanksgiving for the life of the departed

 

 

P: Creator of Heaven and Earth, through all our days you fashion us and by your grace we grow. We thank you for all that was accomplished in your servant, <first name>. As in life she/he glorified your name,

so beyond death may she/he praise you still. Lord, in your mercy,

 

 

C: Hear our prayer.

 

 

Prayer for the Mourners

 

 

P: God of the living and the dead, when you raised Jesus from the tomb you gave new hope to his desolate disciples. Cleanse, restore and heal us in our time of sorrow. May we go forward in his strength upon our pilgrimage, sharing the fellowship of the redeemed, both living and departed. Lord, in your mercy,

 

 

C: Hear our prayer.


 

Prayer of Faith

 

 

P: Father, you are from everlasting, your compassion knows no bounds: Though we are dust and to dust shall return, we trust in your power to fashion us anew in the likeness of your Son, who endured the cross to become the firstborn in your new creation; who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, now and for ever.

 

 

C: Amen.

 

 

The Kyrie Eleison (Seated) P: Lord, have mercy,

C: Christ, have mercy,

P: Lord, have mercy.

 

 

 

 

The Lord’s Prayer (Seated)

 

P: As our Saviour has taught us, so now we pray together,

 

C: Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy Kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. Bring us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, the power and the glory, forever and ever. Amen.

 

 

 

 

Hymn – opt. (Stand as able)

 

 

 

THE COMMENDATION (Seated – The Pastor stands by the coffin and may invite others to stand there as well.)

 

P: Father, we commend to your care our sister/brother, <first name>, giving thanks for him/her gifts and all that she/he brought us. Though now taken from us, let her/him never be parted from you. May your servant, set free from the bondage of earth, be transformed fully into your likeness, from glory to glory; through Jesus Christ our Lord.

 

 

C: Amen.


 

P: Give rest, O Christ, to your servant with your saints, where sorrow and pain are no

more, neither sighing, but life everlasting. You only are immortal, Creator and Maker of all; we are mortal, formed of the earth, and to earth we shall return, for so you did ordain when you created each of us, saying,

 

 

C: Dust you are and to dust you shall return. All we go down to the dust;

and, weeping o'er the grave, we make our song:

alleluia, alleluia, alleluia.

 

 

 

THE COMMITTAL Sentence (Seated)

P: I heard a voice from heaven saying,

‘Write this: “Blessed are the dead who from now on die in the Lord.” “Yes,” says the Spirit, “they will rest from their labours” (Rev. 14.13)

 

 

Prayer of Farewell (which may be offered by a relative) (Seated)

 

P or R: God of grace and glory, we thank you for <name of deceased> who was so near and dear to us, and who has now been taken from us into your mansion.

 

 

We thank you for the friendship she/he gave and for the strength and peace she/he brought. We thank you for the love she/he offered and received while she/he was with us on earth.

We pray that nothing good in this woman's/man’s life will be lost, but will be of benefit to the

world; that all that was important to her/him will be respected by those who follow ~ and that everything in which she/he was great will continue to mean much to us now that she/he is dead.

 

 

We ask you that she/he may go on living in her/his children, her family and her/his friends; in their hearts and minds, in their courage and their consciences.

 

 

We ask you that we who were close to her/him may now, because of his/her death, be even closer to each other, and that we may, in peace and friendship here on earth, always be deeply conscious of your promise to be faithful to us in death.

 

 

We pray for ourselves, who are severely tested by this death that we do not try to minimize this loss, or seek refuge from it in words alone, and also that we do not brood over it so that it overwhelms us and isolates us from others.


 

May God grant us courage and confidence in the new life of Christ. We ask this in the name of the risen Lord.

C: Amen. †

 

 

†         Adapted from 'For a Dead Person' from Your Word is Near by Huub Oosterhuis © 1968 by the Missionary Society of St. Paul the Apostle in the State of New York. Used by permission of the Paulist Press.

 

 

The Death Dirge (which may be offered by a relative) (Seated)

 

P or R: Thou goest home, beloved <first name>, to thy home of winter, To thy home of autumn, of spring, and of summer;

Thou goest home this night to thy perpetual home, To thine eternal bed, to thine eternal slumber.

 

 

Sleep thou, sleep, and away with thy sorrow, Sleep thou, sleep, and away with thy sorrow, Sleep thou, sleep, and away with thy sorrow;

Sleep, thou beloved <first name>, in the Rock of the fold.

 

 

The great sleep of Jesus, the surpassing sleep of Jesus, The sleep of Jesus' wound, the sleep of Jesus' grief, The young sleep of Jesus, the restoring sleep of Jesus, The sleep of the kiss of Jesus of peace and of glory.

 

 

The sleep of the seven lights be thine, beloved, The sleep of the seven joys be thine, beloved,

The sleep of the seven slumbers be thine, beloved <first name>, On the arm of the Jesus of blessings, the Christ of grace.

 

 

Jesus of grace has His hand round about thee;

In nearness to the Trinity farewell to thy pains,

Christ stands before thee, beloved <first name>, and peace is in His mind.

 

 

Sleep, 0, sleep in the calm of all calm, Sleep, 0, sleep in the guidance of guidance, Sleep, 0, sleep in the love of all loves; Sleep, 0, beloved, in the Lord of life,

Sleep, 0, beloved <first name>, in the God of life!

 

 

† Adapted from the Carmina Gadelica, Alexander Carmichael


 

 

Collect and Dismissal (Stand)

 

 

P: Please stand as you are able … Lord, you alone are the source of life. As we depart now,

may your life-giving Spirit flow through us to show comfort and compassion, one for the other, in our sorrow. As we dismiss to go forth now, grant us, we pray you, the calm of your peace, kindle our hope, and let our pain and grief give way to healing and joy, through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

 

 

C: Amen.